Apr\u00e8s le repas, mon amie, celle qui a sug\u00adg\u00e9\u00adr\u00e9 le tat\u00adtoo dans tes r\u00eaves, m\u2019invite \u00e0 son bureau o\u00f9 elle m\u2019offre de te goo\u00adgler pour moi. Elle pour\u00adra voir si Internet r\u00e9v\u00e8le quel pro\u00adnom tu pr\u00e9\u00adf\u00e8res, comme je n\u2019arrive pas \u00e0 te le deman\u00adder, et ce, mal\u00adgr\u00e9 ou \u00e0 cause du fait que nous pas\u00adsions chaque moment dis\u00adpo\u00adnible au lit et que nous par\u00adlions d\u00e9j\u00e0 d\u2019emm\u00e9nager ensemble. En atten\u00addant, je suis deve\u00adnue une pro du contour\u00adne\u00adment des pro\u00adnoms. La clef, c\u2019est d\u2019entra\u00eener son oreille \u00e0 ne pas craindre d\u2019entendre r\u00e9p\u00e9\u00adter encore et encore le pr\u00e9\u00adnom de l\u2019autre. Il faut apprendre \u00e0 s\u2019abriter dans les culs-de-sac gram\u00adma\u00adti\u00adcaux, \u00e0 assu\u00admer une orgie de sp\u00e9\u00adci\u00adfi\u00adci\u00adt\u00e9. Il faut apprendre \u00e0 consen\u00adtir \u00e0 une ins\u00adtance au-del\u00e0 du Deux, pr\u00e9\u00adci\u00ads\u00e9\u00adment au moment o\u00f9 on essaie de se repr\u00e9\u00adsen\u00adter une vie de couple, nup\u00adtiale, m\u00eame.<\/span> Les noces, c\u2019est le contraire d\u2019un couple. Il n\u2019y a plus de machines binaires : ques\u00adtion-r\u00e9ponse, mas\u00adcu\u00adlin-f\u00e9mi\u00adnin, homme-ani\u00admal, etc. \u00c7a pour\u00adrait \u00eatre \u00e7a, un entre\u00adtien, sim\u00adple\u00adment le tra\u00adc\u00e9 d\u2019un deve\u00adnir.<\/em> (Gilles Deleuze &<\/span> Claire Parnet)<\/p>\n

Aussi expert qu\u2019on puisse deve\u00adnir de ce genre de conver\u00adsa\u00adtion, \u00e0 ce jour, c\u2019est encore qua\u00adsi impos\u00adsible pour moi de r\u00e9ser\u00adver des billets d\u2019avion ou de n\u00e9go\u00adcier avec le d\u00e9par\u00adte\u00adment des res\u00adsources humaines en notre nom sans \u00e9clats de honte ou de confu\u00adsion. Ce n\u2019est pas vrai\u00adment ma honte ou ma confu\u00adsion, c\u2019est plu\u00adt\u00f4t comme si j\u2019avais honte pour (ou tout sim\u00adple\u00adment que j\u2019\u00e9tais \u00e9ner\u00adv\u00e9e par) la per\u00adsonne en face de moi qui ne cesse de faire de mau\u00advaises pr\u00e9\u00adsomp\u00adtions et qui doit \u00eatre cor\u00adri\u00adg\u00e9e, mais qui ne peut pas l\u2019\u00eatre parce que les mots ne suf\u00adfisent pas.<\/p>\n

Malade d\u2019amour sur le plan\u00adcher du bureau de mon amie, je lui jette un coup d\u2019\u0153il alors qu\u2019elle fait d\u00e9fi\u00adler une ava\u00adlanche d\u2019informations en cris\u00adtaux liquides que je ne veux pas voir. Je veux le toi que per\u00adsonne ne peut voir, le toi si proche que la troi\u00adsi\u00e8me per\u00adsonne du sin\u00adgu\u00adlier ne s\u2019applique pas. \u00ab Regarde, une cita\u00adtion de John Waters qui dit \u201cElle est magni\u00adfique.\u201d Alors peut-\u00eatre que tu devrais uti\u00adli\u00adser \u201celle\u201d. Je veux dire, c\u2019est John Waters. \u00bb \u00c7a fait des ann\u00e9es. Toujours sur le plan\u00adcher, je l\u00e8ve les yeux au ciel. Les choses peuvent avoir chang\u00e9.<\/em><\/p>\n

Pour ton bud\u00addy movie butch, By Hook or By Crook<\/em>, toi et ta cos\u00adc\u00e9\u00adna\u00adriste, Silas Howard, avez d\u00e9ci\u00add\u00e9 que les per\u00adson\u00adnages butchs s\u2019appelleraient \u00ab il \u00bb et \u00ab lui \u00bb entre eux, mais que dans le monde ext\u00e9\u00adrieur des \u00e9pi\u00adce\u00adries et des figures d\u2019autorit\u00e9, les gens les appel\u00adle\u00adraient \u00ab elles \u00bb. Le pro\u00adpos n\u2019\u00e9tait pas que tout devien\u00addrait clair comme de l\u2019eau de roche dans un monde ext\u00e9\u00adrieur \u00e9du\u00adqu\u00e9 cor\u00adrec\u00adte\u00adment \u00e0 uti\u00adli\u00adser les pro\u00adnoms pr\u00e9\u00adf\u00e9\u00adr\u00e9s des per\u00adson\u00adnages. Si les gens \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9picerie appe\u00adlaient les per\u00adson\u00adnages \u00ab ils \u00bb, ce serait quand m\u00eame une autre sorte de \u00ab il \u00bb. Les mots changent sui\u00advant qui les uti\u00adlise ; on ne s\u2019en sort pas. La solu\u00adtion n\u2019est pas d\u2019introduire sim\u00adple\u00adment de nou\u00adveaux mots (boi<\/em>, cis\u00adgen\u00adr\u00e9<\/em>, andro-fag<\/em>) et puis d\u2019entreprendre de r\u00e9i\u00adfier leur signi\u00adfi\u00adca\u00adtion (m\u00eame s\u2019il y aurait clai\u00adre\u00adment l\u00e0 de la puis\u00adsance et du prag\u00adma\u00adtisme). Il faut \u00e9ga\u00adle\u00adment s\u2019\u00e9veiller \u00e0 la mul\u00adti\u00adtude des usages pos\u00adsibles, des contextes pos\u00adsibles, des ailes avec les\u00adquels chaque mot s\u2019envole. Comme quand tu mur\u00admures : T\u2019es qu\u2019un trou, tu me laisses te rem\u00adplir.<\/em> Comme quand je dis mari<\/em>.<\/p>\n

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After lunch, my friend who sug\u00adges\u00adted the HARD TO GET tat\u00adtoo invites me to her office, where she offers to Google you on my behalf. She\u2019s going to see if the Internet reveals a pre\u00adfer\u00adred pro\u00adnoun for you, since des\u00adpite or due to the fact that we\u2019re spen\u00adding eve\u00adry free moment in bed toge\u00adther and alrea\u00addy tal\u00adking about moving in, I can\u2019t bring myself to ask. Instead I\u2019ve become a quick stu\u00addy in pro\u00adnoun avoi\u00addance. The key is trai\u00adning your ear not to mind hea\u00adring a person\u2019s name over and over again. You must learn to take cover in gram\u00adma\u00adti\u00adcal cul-de-sacs, relax into an orgy of spe\u00adci\u00adfi\u00adci\u00adty. You must learn to tole\u00adrate an ins\u00adtance beyond the Two, pre\u00adci\u00adse\u00adly at the moment of attemp\u00adting to represent a partnership\u2014a nup\u00adtial, even. Nuptials are the oppo\u00adsite of a couple. There are no lon\u00adger bina\u00adry machines : ques\u00adtion-ans\u00adwer, mas\u00adcu\u00adline-femi\u00adnine, man-ani\u00admal, etc. This could be what a conver\u00adsa\u00adtion is\u2014simply the out\u00adline of a beco\u00adming<\/em>.<\/p>\n
Expert as one may become at such a conver\u00adsa\u00adtion, to this day it remains almost impos\u00adsible for me to make an air\u00adline reser\u00adva\u00adtion or nego\u00adtiate with my human resources depart\u00adment on our behalf without flashes of shame or befudd\u00adle\u00adment. It\u2019s not real\u00adly my shame or befuddlement\u2014it\u2019s more like I\u2019m asha\u00admed for (or sim\u00adply pis\u00adsed at) the per\u00adson who keeps making all the wrong pre\u00adsump\u00adtions and has to be cor\u00adrec\u00adted, but who can\u2019t be cor\u00adrec\u00adted because the words are not good enough.<\/p>\n
How can the words not be good enough ?<\/em><\/p>\n
Lovesick on the floor of my friend\u2019s office, I squint up at her as she scrolls through an ons\u00adlaught of bright infor\u00adma\u00adtion I don\u2019t want to see. I want the you no one else can see, the you so close the third per\u00adson never need apply. \u201cLook, here\u2019s a quote from John Waters, saying, \u2018She\u2019s very hand\u00adsome.\u2019 So maybe you should use \u2018she.\u2019 I mean, it\u2019s John Waters.\u201d That was years ago<\/em>, I roll my eyes from the floor. Things might have chan\u00adged<\/em>.<\/p>\n
When making your butch-bud\u00addy film, By Hook or By Crook<\/em>, you and your cowri\u00adter, Silas Howard, deci\u00added that the butch cha\u00adrac\u00adters would call each other \u201che\u201d and \u201chim,\u201d but in the outer world of gro\u00adce\u00adry stores and autho\u00adri\u00adty figures, people would call them \u201cshe\u201d and \u201cher.\u201d The point wasn\u2019t that if the outer world were schoo\u00adled appro\u00adpria\u00adte\u00adly re : the cha\u00adrac\u00adters\u2019 pre\u00adfer\u00adred pro\u00adnouns, eve\u00adry\u00adthing would be right as rain. Because if the out\u00adsi\u00adders cal\u00adled the cha\u00adrac\u00adters \u201che,\u201d it would be a dif\u00adferent kind of he. Words change depen\u00adding on who speaks them ; there is no cure. The ans\u00adwer isn\u2019t just to intro\u00adduce new words (boi, cis\u00adgen\u00adde\u00adred, andro-fag<\/em>) and then set out to rei\u00adfy their mea\u00adnings (though obvious\u00adly there is power and prag\u00adma\u00adtism here). One must also become alert to the mul\u00adti\u00adtude of pos\u00adsible uses, pos\u00adsible contexts, the wings with which each word can fly. Like when you whis\u00adper, You\u2019re just a hole, let\u00adting me fill you up<\/em>. Like when I say hus\u00adband<\/em>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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