Si, petite fille, tu cherches des avant-go\u00fbts du sexe et que les seules options qui se pr\u00e9\u00adsentent d\u00e9peignent le viol d\u2019un enfant ou d\u2019autres abus (donc, tous mes livres pr\u00e9\u00adf\u00e9\u00adr\u00e9s de pr\u00e9\u00adado\u00adles\u00adcente : I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings<\/em>, Clan of the Cave Bear<\/em>, The World According to Garp<\/em>, tout comme les quelques films cot\u00e9s R qu\u2019on me per\u00admet\u00adtait de regar\u00adder : Fame<\/em>, notam\u00adment, avec la sc\u00e8ne ind\u00e9\u00adl\u00e9\u00adbile d\u2019Irene Cara \u00e0 qui un pho\u00adto\u00adgraphe louche, qui a pro\u00admis de faire d\u2019elle une star, demande d\u2019enlever sa che\u00admise et de sucer son pouce), alors ta sexua\u00adli\u00adt\u00e9 va se for\u00admer autour de \u00e7a. Il n\u2019y a pas de groupe t\u00e9moin, \u00e0 qui on aurait don\u00adn\u00e9 un pla\u00adce\u00adbo. Je ne veux m\u00eame pas par\u00adler de \u00ab sexua\u00adli\u00adt\u00e9 f\u00e9mi\u00adnine \u00bb tant qu\u2019on ne se dote\u00adra pas d\u2019un groupe t\u00e9moin. Et il n\u2019y en aura jamais.<\/p>\n

\u00c0 l\u2019\u00e9cole secon\u00addaire, un prof bien avi\u00ads\u00e9 nous a don\u00adn\u00e9 \u00e0 lire Wild Swans<\/em> d\u2019Alice Munro. L\u2019histoire a sai\u00adsi mon esprit vici\u00e9 par l\u2019image du p\u00e9nis-ma\u00efs et l\u2019a net\u00adtoy\u00e9. En quelques pages, Munro couvre tout le sujet : com\u00adment la force de la curio\u00adsi\u00adt\u00e9 ado\u00adles\u00adcente et le d\u00e9sir latent doivent sou\u00advent entrer en guerre avec le besoin de se pro\u00adt\u00e9\u00adger de vio\u00adleurs per\u00adni\u00adcieux et d\u00e9gueu\u00adlasses ; com\u00adment le plai\u00adsir peut coexis\u00adter avec une d\u00e9gra\u00adda\u00adtion affreuse, sans que \u00e7a signi\u00adfie que la d\u00e9gra\u00adda\u00adtion \u00e9tait jus\u00adti\u00adfi\u00e9e ou qu\u2019elle incar\u00adnait un fan\u00adtasme incons\u00adcient ; com\u00adment on se sent lorsqu\u2019on est \u00e0 la fois com\u00adplice et vic\u00adtime ; et com\u00adment de telles ambi\u00adva\u00adlences peuvent per\u00addu\u00adrer dans une vie sexuelle adulte.<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re loo\u00adking for sexual tid\u00adbits as a female child, and the only ones that present them\u00adselves depict child rape or other vio\u00adla\u00adtions [\u2026], then your sexua\u00adli\u00adty will form around that fact. There is no control group. I don\u2019t even want to talk about \u201cfemale sexua\u00adli\u00adty\u201d until there is a control group. And there never will be.<\/p>\n
In high school, a wise tea\u00adcher assi\u00adgned the short sto\u00adry \u201cWild Swans\u201d by Alice Munro. [\u2026] In just a few short pages, Munro lays it all out : how the force of one\u2019s ado\u00adles\u00adcent curio\u00adsi\u00adty and inci\u00adpient lust often must war with the need to pro\u00adtect one\u00adself from dis\u00adgus\u00adting and wicked vio\u00adla\u00adtors, how plea\u00adsure can coexist with awful degra\u00adda\u00adtion without mea\u00adning the degra\u00adda\u00adtion was jus\u00adti\u00adfied or a spe\u00adcies of wish ful\u00adfillment ; how it feels to be both accom\u00adplice and vic\u00adtim ; and how such ambi\u00adva\u00adlences can live on in an adult sexual life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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