Un soi sans atta\u00adche\u00adments com\u00adpas\u00adsion\u00adnels rel\u00e8ve de la fic\u00adtion ou de la d\u00e9mence. [Pourtant,] la d\u00e9pen\u00addance est m\u00e9pri\u00ads\u00e9e, m\u00eame dans les rela\u00adtions intimes, comme si elle \u00e9tait incom\u00adpa\u00adtible avec l\u2019autonomie, alors qu\u2019elle est la seule chose qui la rend pos\u00adsible.<\/em> (Adam Phillips \/ Barbara Taylor)<\/p>\n

J\u2019ai appris ce m\u00e9pris de ma propre m\u00e8re ; peut-\u00eatre \u00e9tait-il infu\u00ads\u00e9 dans mon lait. Par cons\u00e9\u00adquent, il faut que je sur\u00adveille ma ten\u00addance \u00e0 consi\u00add\u00e9\u00adrer les besoins des autres comme d\u00e9go\u00fb\u00adtants. Habitude corol\u00adlaire : fon\u00adder la majeure par\u00adtie de mon estime per\u00adson\u00adnelle sur un sen\u00adti\u00adment d\u2019hyper-comp\u00e9tence, une croyance irra\u00adtion\u00adnelle mais ardente en ma qua\u00adsi totale autonomie.<\/p>\n

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The self without sym\u00adpa\u00adthe\u00adtic attach\u00adments is either a fic\u00adtion or a luna\u00adtic\u2026. [Yet] depen\u00addence is scor\u00adned even in inti\u00admate rela\u00adtion\u00adships, as though depen\u00addence were incom\u00adpa\u00adtible with self-reliance rather than the only thing that makes it pos\u00adsible<\/em>. (Adam Phillips \/ Barbara Taylor)<\/p>\n
I lear\u00adned this scorn from my own mother ; per\u00adhaps it laced my milk. I the\u00adre\u00adfore have to be on the alert for a ten\u00adden\u00adcy to treat other people\u2019s needs as repul\u00adsive. Corollary habit : deri\u00adving the bulk of my self-worth from a fee\u00adling of hyper\u00adcom\u00adpe\u00adtence, an irra\u00adtio\u00adnal but fervent belief in my near total self-reliance.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Un soi sans atta\u00adche\u00adments com\u00adpas\u00adsion\u00adnels rel\u00e8ve de la fic\u00adtion ou de la d\u00e9mence. [Pourtant,] la d\u00e9pen\u00addance est m\u00e9pri\u00ads\u00e9e, m\u00eame dans les rela\u00adtions intimes, comme si elle \u00e9tait incom\u00adpa\u00adtible avec l\u2019autonomie, alors qu\u2019elle est la seule chose qui la rend pos\u00adsible. (Adam Phillips \/ Barbara Taylor) J\u2019ai appris ce m\u00e9pris de ma propre m\u00e8re ; peut-\u00eatre \u00e9tait-il [\u2026]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[270,2909],"class_list":["post-20287","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-non-classe","tag-autonomie","tag-soi","post_format-post-format-quote"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20287","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=20287"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20287\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21821,"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20287\/revisions\/21821"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=20287"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=20287"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testanonpertinente.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=20287"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}